Happiness is a state of mind, an emotional state and a mental state. But how can we define a happy person? We can look at their emotions and the degree of pleasure or displeasure that they cause.
The happiest people are not those who experience pleasurable emotions more intensely. Instead, they are those who have positive emotions with moderate intensity on a frequent basis. High-intensity gratifying moments are unusual, even for the happiest people. So, happiness is linked to a feeling of inner fulfillment and psychological well-being.
Asking the people around us if they are really happy, they will mention specific events that have made them feel momentary ecstasy. For example, the birth of a child or a grandchild, the purchase of a new home or winning the lottery are events that are usually associated with moments of joy.
But these types of events do not happen often. Therefore, basing happiness on a hope for extraordinary events can end in unhappiness.
Looking for the sublime or the pleasant constantly leads us to error, even when we achieve desired results. People who seek “maximum happiness or maximum pleasure” at all times tend to change partners or jobs repeatedly and compulsively. They do not engage in long-lasting friendship relationships.
There will always be something better. It is exactly this incessant search for excellence and that addiction to change that makes them desperate and bored.
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