Mis-Remember...

We exaggerate our memories. The fact that often we ‘mis-remember’ past experiences can place us in more difficulties.

We tend to remember ‘good’ things being better than they actually were. And we tend to remember ‘bad’ things being worse than they actually were. We exaggerate our memories. 

The way this plays into men thinking that women will bring them happiness is quite simple: we tend to have overly positive recollections of the good times we shared with women in the past. You remember something like going on an exotic vacation or decorating a new apartment with an ex-girlfriend, and it seems like that was one

of your happiest moments ever. 

In reality, it was probably a good time, but most likely you didn’t think it was ‘heaven-on-earth’ while it actually was happening.

Another big idea is the fact that we romanticize the future, just as we do the past. And this feeds into the false belief that women will bring us happiness for the same reasons that ‘mis-remembering’ the past does.

The danger here is that we’re prone to incorrectly believing that finding a girlfriend or having one will be the best thing ever and make us oh-so-happy for ever and ever. 

Just a thought.