Single people are far more connected to the social world around them. On average, they provide more care for their siblings and aging parents. They have more friends. They are more likely to offer help to neighbors and ask for it in return.
This is especially true for those who have always been single, shattering the myth of the spinster cat lady entirely. Single women in particular are more politically engaged attending rallies and fundraising for causes that are important to them than married women. (These trends persist, but are weaker, for single people who were previously married.)
Researchers found that those who were married without children were the most isolated.
The potential explanation for this is that these couples tend to have more time and money and thus need less help from family and friends and are then less likely to offer it in return.
The autonomy of successful married life can leave spouses cut off from their communities.
Having children may slightly soften the isolating effects of marriage, because parents often turn to others for help.
The sociologists found that, for the most part, these trends couldn’t be explained away by structural differences in the lives of married versus unmarried people. They hold true across racial groups and even when researchers control for age and socioeconomic status.
So it isn’t the circumstances of married life that isolate—it’s marriage itself.
