Most of the popular advice books adopt a psychological lens. These books start with the premise that getting married is a daunting prospect. Forty-five percent of marriages end in divorce; 10 percent of couples separate but do not divorce.
The psychologists want you to think analytically as well as romantically about whom to marry. Pay attention to traits.
Marry someone who scores high in “agreeableness,” has a high concern for social harmony, good at empathy, who is nice. You want to avoid people who score high in neuroticism who are emotionally unstable or prone to anger.
Don’t think negative traits will change over time, they are constant across a lifetime. Don’t focus on irrelevant factors. Don’t filter out or rationalize away negative information about a partner or relationship.
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