Stonewaller...

 

Whenever my boyfriend and I get into a fight, he stops speaking to me. I am not talking about the I-need-to-calm-down-for-a-minute kind of thing people do. 

He full blown ignores me. I call his name, I ask him a question, I try to get his attention and he doesn’t even look up! It drives me crazy!  Sick of the Silent Treatment.

The scenario is usually that two people are walking separately, one complaining loudly and sometimes incoherently, and the other silently refusing to acknowledge their partner’s complaints.

Outdoors or indoors what’s happening is essentially the same: one person is stonewalling and the other is getting madder and madder because they are being treated as if they’re not there.

The person doing the stonewalling is probably “flooded” emotionally. Their blood pressure is up, stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol are surging through their bloodstream and they may even be caught up in the fight, flight or freeze response to stress. 

Stonewalling has a similar effect on the person who is making the complaints. Their blood pressure and level of distress also go up.

 “When that happens, it is impossible to continue discussing the issue at hand in a rational and respectful way; you’re simply too physiologically agitated to do so.”

So here we are. Just a thought.

يا جَابراً

 

يا جَابراً كسْرَ القُلوبِ جَمِيعَها 

إجعَلْ لنَا فِيمَنْ جَبَرتَ نَصِيبَا

مَنْ للنفُوسِ إذَا تعاظَمَ كرَبها

وبدَا لهَا خَطوْ الحَياةِ صَعِيبَا؟!

‏مَنْ للعُيونِ إذَا تقاطرَ دمعُها

‏يَجْلوْ الأسَىٰ دُوَنَ الأنامِ قَرِيبَا ؟!

إنَّ الذي أبكْىَ وأضْحَكَ قَادِرٌ

أنْ يَبرئ القَلبَ الكَلِيلَ طَبِيبَا

‏فاشْرحْ بِنوركَ يا مُهَيمِنُ صَدرَنا

واجْعلْ لنَا دربُ الحياةِ رحيبَا

Vaccinated...

 

REP. ADRIANO ESPAILLAT (D-NY)

"I am following guidance from my physician and quarantining at home after having tested positive for COVID-19," he said. 

"I have been administered both shots of the COVID-19 vaccine and have continued to be tested regularly, wear my mask and follow the recommendation guidelines. 

I will continue my duties representing New York's 13th congressional district remotely until I have received clearance from my doctor. Just a thought.

 I encourage all residents to follow public health guidelines to prevent the spread of the virus."

Bubbles...

 

Americans are more polarized today than ever at least by some measures.
A growing body of research suggests that social media is accelerating the trend, and many political scientists worry it’s tearing our country apart.  

Facebook, Reddit, and Twitter have all become sites of ferocious political argument. While polarization definitely plays out on social media, the evidence to date suggests that its impact is subtler than you might think. 

Social media, it seems, amp up moral and emotional messages while organizing people into digital communities based on tribal conflicts.

We are increasingly live in online filter bubbles that only expose us to the ideas we already agree with. This is consistent with a broader psychological literature on confirmation bias, showing that we are more likely to seek out and agree with views that align with our pre-existing beliefs. 

Selecting our preferred news sites and curating our social media accounts potentially makes it easier to listen to groups or individuals who validate our own worldviews.  Just a thought.

Feelings...

 

For the first time in recent history a breach of the US Capital security occurred. This doesn't happen any where in the world.

For the first time ever the politicians faced demonstrators face to face without massive security apparatus in front of them for protection. The remaining security corralled the politicians out to a hidden and more secure places in the capital to separate them from the demonstrators. Additional security resources took forever to show up to take control of the capital.. Then and only then, the politicians felt safe again.

The fear, anxiety, and not knowing what is happening, where to go or hide was unbearable for these highly protected politicians. A terrible endless feeling of fear is the status of the politicians in the capital at that time. In addition to huge anger at the security service for this unexpected melt down.

With this explosion of rollercoaster emotions, some one must be responsible.Who would that be?

However, this is the same feelings regular Americans faced in so many cities. The politicians not supporting the police, with instruction to stand down, the looters took advantage of it for days.

 All this violence was expected and projected by all yet...

What happened in the capital is the same as what happened to regular Americans in many cities around the country.  Same feelings.  Just a thought.

كفكف دموعك

 

Confusion...

 

A Major Medical Center in New York says it is canceling COVID-19 vaccination appointments until the middle of next week due to a shortage of vaccines.

In a statement, the hospital network said appointments from Friday, January 15 through Tuesday, January 19 would not take place. 

The shortage comes as the state has expanded the number of people who are eligible to receive the shot. Both Gov.  

Montefiore says they have not canceled any vaccine appointments at their Bronx hospitals.

NYU Langone tells NY1 that while it is not canceling appointments, it is not scheduling new ones. 

The rollout of the vaccine has been marked by confusion over eligibility and the sign-up process.   BY MICHAEL SCOTTO NEW YORK CITY.

Earlier, New York's governor threatened to fine hospitals up to $100,000 if they don't finish their first round of inoculations by the end of the week!!!!!

Its all finished...

Search...

 

Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself.

“Be who you are and say what you feel if you asked, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”

“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

“Don't walk behind me; I may not lead.

Waste...

Speaker Nancy Pelosi announced Democrats are moving forward with trying to remove President Donald Trump from office days after the riots at the Capitol. 

 Pelosi told her members in a letter that the House would attempt to pass a measure Monday to call on Vice President Mike Pence to invoke the 25th Amendment and remove Trump from office. If he does not act, Democrats will proceed with impeaching Trump.

 "In protecting our Constitution and our Democracy, we will act with urgency, because this President represents an imminent threat to both," she wrote.

Pelosi is Consuming time and money chasing the President of the United States of America.

Nothing changed in politics.   Just a thought.

Suffolk...

Covid-19 Cases in Suffolk County is at a level that makes the outbreak here “severe,” according to a risk assessment group affiliated with Georgetown University. Suffolk currently has 121 cases per 100,000 residents. 

Since the New Year, the risk of contracting the virus in Suffolk has been “extreme” — because daily new cases rose above 75 per 100,000 people  under metrics published by the Harvard Global Health Institute. 

 New York State as a whole crossed into the extreme risk category, when daily new cases first exceeded 75 per 100,000. As of yesterday, that number had ticked up to 79 per 100k.

Suffolk’s 121 cases per 100,000 residents ranks the county fourth highest in New York State, behind the upstate counties of Herkimer, Cayuga and Lewis, according to data collected and published by the nonprofit risk assessment group,