Saturday, November 24, 2018

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A man meets a woman, both like each other and take steps to start a relationship. They start dating, meet the families and friends. Do fun things. They test each other and Imagine how life could be if they are to form a union. They get married ….. But sometimes things doesn't work as hoped or expected.

For the woman, it’s a combo, a package deal. You get the house, the car, the stuff, the kids and the guy. 
A woman has a list of priorities that lives by a year or two into this union. it  includes her kids, her job, her mother, her sister, her friends and Zumba. She can get her needs met in a variety of ways and can have close, intimate relationships with any one of those people on that list, not only with him.
For men the woman is central. He may love his house, his kids, and his stuff but men's primary want is their wife.

Many men complain that they feel they are last on the list, after the kids, her job, her mother, …. and Zumba.

Men desperately need to feel connected to her and often the quickest route to satisfy that need is through intimacy. They also need for their wife to appreciate,  admire and respect them and what they do.Women belittle that need.
Women go into marriage for the marriage while men go into marriage for the woman.
[Vikki Stark M.S.W., M.F.T.]

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