Adjust...

It's hardly news to point out that men are more concerned about their bodies than ever before, but the fear of visibly aging is no longer limited to women, if it ever was.

The "sexual invisibility" felt by many older men is really about becoming less attractive to young women.   "Young women look at me and they see someone who looks like their Dad,"

Most 40-something women just like to turn the heads of guys their own age. Not so for their male peers, many of whom are busy chasing substantially younger women.

Why so few men are interested in dating women their own age.  OKCupid data indicates that women are much more interested in dating guys their own age. In the effort to prove that they can still attract younger women, middle-aged men are the ones who are rendering their peers "sexually invisible."

The reasons older men chase younger women have less to do with sex and everything to do with a profound desire to reassure ourselves that we've still got "it." "It" isn't just physical attractiveness; "it" is the whole masculine package of youth, vitality, and, above all else, possibility.

It's not that women our own age are less attractive, it's that they lack the culturally-based power to reassure our fragile, aging egos that we are still hot and hip and filled with potential.

Can we all adjust?  Just a thought.