For most women, a courtship or a relationship is often about testing the man they are with. And these tests are almost always done with the intention of being in control of the relationship.
The typical guy is usually clueless about the games women play.
You like this particular girl, who refuses to neither move in nor move back. She sends all the right signals, but when you try and respond to them she just pulls back.
This isn't always just a matter of her trying to present herself as a challenge. Most women are wary of getting into a relationship if there is an emotional risk involved. So she might be just testing the waters to make sure that you're worth the risk. And testing the waters can take years.
If she's not clear about her feelings for you but is giving you the "I'm interested" signals, then show her you feel the same way. But don't overdo it, as you still want to remain a challenge. Just let her understand that there are more fish in the sea, and alot more grapes in the bunch so you can easily look elsewhere if things don't seem to work out. She may have been doing the same, looking elsewhere.
